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The vast majority of the world goes through life wandering. They have no place to go, no plan on how they are getting there and have no clue when they will arrive.
They simply exist.
These people make decisions based on what their friends or their favorite celebrity are doing. If their friends are into this or that then they go along for the ride, because why not.
Sure, they have their unique interests. Things that they enjoy doing, but they have not really thought about how that particular thing may or may not add value to their life. They just do it because it feels good.
I used to be this person.
A few years ago my brother called me up and asked me to join in his fantasy football league. I said “sure” and a few weeks later I was hooked.
I didn’t give it much thought. My brother was into it so I thought that it must be fun. The further in the season that we got the more I found myself sitting on the couch watching every game that I could.
Of course, it wasn’t just a few hours on a Sunday afternoon to unwind. Nope. It started about 11 A.M. Sunday morning setting my lineup and making sure that all of my players were healthy and active. The games last all afternoon Sunday and then of course there is Sunday Night Football so I had to stay up and watch that. Then it spilled into Monday Night Football.
And let’s not forget that the football week actually starts with a game on Thursday night.
Looking back, I hate to even think how many pointless hours I wasted sitting in front of my TV watching a bunch of dudes that I don’t know play a game that I’m not very good at.
What did I do it for? What did it accomplish? Did it add anything of value to my life?
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Some of my favorite sports teams have had some high highs and some low lows.
I can remember on several occasions watching a game that went into overtime or extra innings and the game not getting over til midnight or later. By the time the game ended I was so wound up that I could hardly sleep. So now, not only was I going to bed late but I also got a crappy nights sleep because I could still feel my heart pounding in my chest from the excitement of the game.
I finally had my “Aha!” moment shortly after my favorite college football team lost the game that would have gotten them into the National Championship game.
I was distraught.
Eventually, I was able to step back and gain some perspective. Sure, this particular college was my Alma Mater and who doesn’t want to see their Alma Mater in the National Championship!
But, did I know one individual on that team personally?
Did the outcome of that game effect my life one bit?
Despite these facts I had let a game that had zero implications on my life affect my mood for several days.
Does it add value?
There have been many things in my life besides sports that have been a huge waste of time. Anything from video games to pointless hobbies and even some of my friends.
I finally began to ask myself this question:
Does it add value to my life?
Trivial things like video games and fantasy sports are pretty obvious. These things added nothing to my life except for some entertainment value. But I had gone way overboard in that department.
Some things in life are not quite as obvious. Like that friend from college that had done nothing with his life, continued to make bad decisions and in all reality was a very poor friend. I had to ask myself if that relationship was worth holding on to.
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn has a quote that says:
“You are the average of the five people that you spend the most time with”
I don’t know if this quote is scientifically proven but I think it holds true in most cases. This is not just an income thing. I believe you are the average person of the five people that you spend the most time with in lots of ways. Are the people in your inner circle good quality people? Are they good parents? Good students? Good employees? Are they people that you want to emulate?
If you look around your inner circle and see a bunch of people who are fun to hang out with but have no direction or purpose in life you may want to re-evaluate.
Don’t fool yourself
It’s easy to justify your decisions. It’s a trap that I have fallen into myself.
“But I’ve been friends with this guy since elementary school”
“I play fantasy football because it’s a good way to stay connected with my friends”
Yea, it momentarily makes me feel better about a poor decision that I made but deep down I know that it is not benefiting me in any way.
Cutting ties with people who you have known for a long time or changing bad habits that have been part of your life for years is not easy. Trust me, I’ve been there. It’s a matter of choosing personal progress over comfort. Which do you want more?
For me, I choose personal progress.
I want to get a little bit better everyday. I know that long-term this is the choice that will most benefit me and my family.
Comfort feels good at the time but when you look back years later it leaves a horrible after-taste in your mouth. It tastes a lot like regret.
Do you want to be better a year from now or do you want to be in the exact same spot as you are now, the only difference being that you are one year older?
Be intentional with your life. Be intentional with your decision-making. The next time you have a choice, choose the one that will give you the best return, not the one that will bring you a brief moment of fleeting comfort.
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